Hi! It's a pleasure to meet you. I’m Alexa, a certified sex, love and relationship coach with a focus on dating, and empowerment. It's my desire for you to say YES! to your sensuality and turn on to your inner power.
It’s my wholehearted desire to reflect back to you your inner power so you can tear off the “nice girl” label and courageously wear all of you out into the world to get what you truly want.
If you desire to become the most extraordinary version of yourself or you’re looking for true love (or maybe want both!), I would love nothing more than to share with you what I've learned and be with you every step of the way.
I can help you to:
- • Gain clarity about your desires so you can have the most loving relationship with yourself and call in a partner you deserve.
- • Shed a light on habits and patterns that don’t serve you anymore so you can feel restored and begin to build lasting love in yourself and with others.
- • Stoke the fires of your inner power to deepen positive self-regard, stop playing small, and start to taking up space and being seen.
- • Upgrade the vision you hold for yourself and elevate your spirituality, sensuality, mental and emotional well-being.
- • Take a look at who you are and where you’ve been so you can be extraordinary to attract the extraordinary.
- • Deepen your connection and heighten your attunement to your body’s wisdom and behold your sexuality and desires as your own.
- • Open up your erotic intelligence to expand into the pleasure and sensuality you deserve to experience.
I bring in sensuality, threads of spirituality, and my understanding of time-honored ancient practices to create a sacred and integrated approach to my coaching.
I use tools and techniques like breathwork, meditation, visualization, body-mind awareness, movement, sounding, pleasure and embodiment to create an approach that goes deeper into the body beyond just talk-coaching.
With me, you can expect a unique and integrative path towards shedding the label and switching on your magnetism.
I was in my mid twenties when I moved overseas to be with the love of my life. Within 4 months of moving in with my partner…
our relationship crumbled.
There were many painful revelations amidst our partnership dissolving but it was when I heard the words “you aren’t shiny enough for me,” I moved out on my own.
It was a devastating split.
I had barely unpacked my belongings, I had no community or job to rely on, and just enough money to cover 2 months’ rent.
Eventually, I met another man.
We had been dating for months and things felt juicy and delicious. One night, when we were in the elevator on the way up to his place after our date night, I sensed something was off.
Was it something I said? Something I did? Was he bored with me? Should I say sorry? What would I be saying sorry for? What is there to be sorry about?
Finally, looking at me point blank, he said to me, in a thick, dripping-with-condescension tone of voice that flew out of his lips and gripped my heart:
“Alexa, you’re a nice girl.”
It was both what he had said and how he had said it. High-handedly, heartlessly, arrogantly.
Here I was, someone who left everything and traveled 7,000 miles to be with the love of her life who then managed to find an escape, pack up her bags and leave the relationship she had so wholeheartedly believed in;
A woman who broke down, cried herself to sleep every night for months, wondering why she was so unlovable;
A woman who reinvented herself while still in the process of building herself back up despite the disappointment, the heartbreak, the loneliness, the unknowing;
A woman who brimmed with desire, willingly shared her body and sexuality, standing in an elevator, handing over her heart and falling in love again.
A woman, not a nice girl.
It felt like such a term of diminishment. I felt completely unseen. I was reduced to one dimension. No depth, no width, no height, no scope.
I felt misrepresented, misunderstood, misused, and mistaken for the complete woman/human/soul that I am.
One day, not long after, sitting in my friend’s kitchen, I just so happened to watch a short video about Tantra. I was curious and I tried out one of the techniques I saw.
I felt incredible pleasure surge through my body in a way I had never experienced before. As someone who used to struggle with orgasm and didn’t have one until she was 26, any way to access a new way of feeling pleasure was monumental. I was sold.
From here, I went on an upward spiral of learning.
I discovered how thirsty I was for this knowledge – Tantra, sacred sexuality and femininity, personal development, breathwork, spirituality, psychology, meditation, energy…
I couldn’t (still can’t) stop reading, researching, and taking trainings.
Once I started doing the work, I began to see the benefits of turning the lens inward. I learned:
…that hiding from being seen, and not speaking my authentic truth is a huge energy leak.
…that pleasure is a part of my ability to heal and thrive.
…that when I take up space and set boundaries, it doesn’t mean I become entitled and arrogant.
…that my sensuality can help me feel more confident in my body, own my sexuality and power my manifestations.
…how I abandoned myself, was unloving to myself, felt less about myself, and why self-love is THE foundation for everything else – healing, pleasure, success, abundance – to be built upon.
…how to be more accepting and start loving myself – even my patterns, my wounds, my habits – no matter what.
…that my sexuality and pleasure are for me and not meant to be for others or performed for others.
…that I cared less about what others had to say about me.
…how to build up and rely on my inner power.
I’ve begun to rise in love with myself, and I want to shine a light for you to do the same.
I will use tools, techniques and processes to help you:
- • Tune into your body’s inherent wisdom and intelligence.
- • Find the pieces of you that want to be integrated.
- • Discover blockages to love, pleasure and desire.
- • Connect to your sensuality.
- • Understand your emotions.
- • Access your subconscious.
- • Rewire old beliefs, patterns and conditioning.
Let me show you how you too can live fully and magnetize what it is you want from a place of self-love and empowerment.
My Training:
- ISTA International School of Temple Arts Level 1
- VITA Conscious Dating Specialized Coaching
- VITA Women’s Empowerment Specialized Coaching
- Tao Tantric Arts, 5-week Sacred Femininity Training with Minke de Vos and Shashi Solluna
- The Artistry of Embodiment, year-long group mentorship with Marina Nabao
- In-person Embodiment Retreat and Facilitator Training with Layla Martin
- Authentic Relating – Dating
- 650-hour VITA Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching with the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality