FAQ – Not a Nice Girl

What is a
dating
and empowerment
coach?

Using a trauma-informed, Tantric-approach and somatic-based method to hold a deep and loving space for my clients, I work with women and vulva-owners to shed a loving light on themselves so they can go out and be beacons of light for others. Especially if you feel stuck, and desiring to move the needle towards expansion, growth and transformation, I am here to support, hold space and mirror your greatness while helping you to remember your worth, power and wholeness. Self-love and self-compassion are the threads that weave through every desire in life. It’s at the center of your energy, your sense of worthiness, and a litmus test for how you show up in the world.

This is where I come in.

I provide a balance of science and woo to connect you to your body, soul and source of pleasure so you can find sustainable love starting with yourself that then spills over into being and cultivating connections with others.

What should I
expect from you
as the coach?

I will listen and support you without judgment or assumptions. I will hold a safe and compassionate space for you to open up, be seen and be heard. I will collaborate and co-create with you and your experience from start to finish. I will use invitational language and remind you that everything I share or ask of you is a suggestion – you always have personal autonomy. I will show you that I am on your side and will cheerlead your growth and success. I will challenge you and lovingly nudge you towards expansion which might be disguised as discomfort but never painful. I will encourage you to listen to the wisdom of your body through somatic embodiment practices. Everything that is shared within our container is confidential.

How do I know if
you are a suitable
coach for me?

In a nutshell, my coaching style is invitational, collaborative, holistic and curious. I also incorporate somatic practices and techniques that work to help guide you out of your head and into your body. That being said, however, the best way to see if we’re a match is to meet me for a free 45-minute online consultation call. You can book one right here.

Does coaching
really work and
what are the
benefits?

Coaching works exceedingly well when you’re able to begin to envision a desire. It works best for those who have done some work and who are in the process of healing and integrating. As long as you keep showing up, are willing to do the work and keep putting your heart and soul into it, you will experience how coaching can have the capacity to transform your life.

What does a
coach do?

A coach is meant to work with who you are today to move you closer towards who you want to be when you reach your future goal/desire. Working within a desire-based model, we will uncover what it is you want, and I will help you get from where you are today to where you want to be tomorrow while discovering, uncovering and lovingly moving through the obstacles along the way.

Do I need to be
spiritual for your
coaching?

While my approach to coaching is rooted and embedded in spirituality, ancient practices from Tantra and Taosim, I can very easily adapt my verbiage and space-holding to reflect a more secular approach.

Is there
homework or
assignments in
between
sessions?

It’s called “homeplay” and it’s a more exciting version of the assignments you were given in school. It’s a way to take what you learned in our sessions and embody them until we meet again. Not only is homeplay effective and oftentimes fun, it’s a sure fire way to accelerate results while in our coaching container.

Your sessions are
virtual. Are they
as “good” or
effective as
being in person?

Yes! The transmission and depth of the process can still be felt and experienced through the screen. The best part? It’s all in the comfort of your own space so you’re more at ease in your familiar surroundings. This can be helpful in reaching deeper and harder-to-access parts of you.

I feel a bit
uncomfortable
with the thought
of coaching,
how do I know
if I am ready?

Discomfort is not a bad place to be in. It’s a sign of growth and transition as you straddle two points. It means you are becoming curious about what is outside your comfort zone as you try to leave it. Book a free consultation with me if you want to know for sure.

I’m experiencing
hesitation,
resistance and
fear about
receiving
coaching.
Is this normal?

Absolutely. This is your body’s way of protecting you and keeping you safe by attempting to make you stay in your comfort zone. There will be fear and feelings of discomfort as you strive to make changes. Honor your feelings and remember your “why.”

What is
“felt sense” and
“body mind?”
What does it have
to do with
coaching?

In order for us to make changes and access deeper levels in the body, we will be working a lot with the felt sense and body mind. In fact, it’s core to the work we do together. The body-mind is the union between your body and mind that experiences and signals sensations, thoughts, feelings and textures, etc., whereas your felt sense is the built-up awareness of your body and nervous system experience that communicates as sensations arising in the present moment within you. The body-mind is the access point to some of the deepest programming in your subconscious and nervous system wiring that I will gently guide you through. It’s in these spaces that we can uncover rich information to show us what’s running the show below the surface of your day-to-day thoughts, behaviors and actions. It’s in these spaces that we can work together to investigate your core truths and expand your reality to bring you back into integrity and wholeness.

How much time
do I need to
invest in
coaching?

Each session is between 75-90 minutes and there’s 1-3 hours of homeplay (meditation, journaling, self-pleasure practices, and other suggested practices) in between sessions.

What is the
financial
investment for
1:1 coaching?

For 12 sessions (must be used within 6 months) it's $2,400 USD.

What’s included: 75-90 min coaching calls (2 or 3 per month), email recaps provided after each session (available within 24 hours), Monday-Friday Voxer messaging access and access to my Pleasure Chest resources library.